“The only good thing to do with good advice is pass it on; it is never of any use to oneself.”
– Oscar Wilde
I find it fairly difficult to narrow down all of the incredible advice and information I’ve come to acquire over the years, to just one, solid and universal piece of information. Thankfully, a fellow Marine of mine (Sage), recently posted some great advice that reminded me of a life lesson that I learned the hard way. To paraphrase what he said:
There will eventually come a time in your life where you have to walk away from a personal relationship you have with someone because you’ve given too much of yourself. Although you can continue to give more of yourself, the only viable option is to stop giving, simply because your sense of determination is becoming more-so a sense of desperation and masochism in the long run. Relationships should be symbiotic in nature, where you reciprocate kind gestures to one another, but if there is no reciprocity you’re only digging yourself into an enormous hole. By no means does your refusal to continue mean you’ve given up, however; it just goes to show you how much you also care about your own personal well-being.
In the end, you will always end up with what is inevitably yours, relationships and all; And by then, you should be able to recognize that some things – despite your greatest efforts – are never meant to be in your life. Likewise, a person that is unable to see the effort a person is putting out for them, will only come to find in the end that if they sow nothing, you will inevitably reap nothing in the end, as well. With that being said, I hope you all cherish your close relationships as they all need a little tender, love, and care from time to time (as we all do).