I had plans on blogging about something else, but this is too fascinating not to make public. Since we are all aware of our surroundings, we often create and wear masks for various reasons. Whether it’s to gain a sense of dependence, hide our insecurities, manipulate others, counter the fear of rejection, or to avoid close relationships – we wear them by choice. The only thing about masks is that in most cases, the only ones that know that we’re wearing one is either ourselves, or the people that are closest to us.
I’ll list them all and you can guess which ones I wear, but in the end I’ll tell you of the ones that I can’t stand.
Tells you what you want to hear, confident attitude, cool but sometimes a back stabber. Tries to please everyone, very wishy-washy, clingy person, won’t tell you like it is, will not confront people, avoids answering direct questions.
“Susie or Sam Cream Cheese”
Comes off sweet, innocent and naive. Uses this come-off to get their way, is really a vicious and cunning manipulator.
When confronted, comes off like a moron or dummy, in this way tries to manipulate people into excusing them, wants people to believe they are dumb, when, in reality, it is just the opposite. Wants people to do things for them, so they act dumb. Very passive.
Sociopath, shallow person, with little regard for the rights of others. They lie, cheat and have no loyalty and love only themselves. A heavy manipulator with no values.
“Big Spender” aka “The Pimp”
Very materialistic, shiny cars, flashy clothes, diamonds, heavy player, etc. Uses this mask for attention and recognition. Lives in the past. A braggart.
Manipulates people by intimidation, is pushy, loud, aggressive, and a bully type person. Inside, they are actually scared.
Very anti-social, very paranoid, doesn’t know how to act around other people, projects hostility to keep people away.
Smart aleck, loud, seeks attention, tries to be the life of the party, inside is very lonely.
Hides behind words and ideas, is out of touch with their feelings and emotions, is paranoid of feelings and emotions, therefore is afraid to express themselves. Uses their intellect to impress people. Self-centered, lacks common sense. Distorts views of reality.
Plays on being spaced out, most often when being confronted. Wants to stay out of touch with reality and also uses their mask to gain attention. Flaky, easily mistaken for an “illiterate dummy”. Lacks ability to make commitments to themselves and others.
“Drug Store Addict”
Conventional dresser, thinks they are together, therefore, place themselves above the common chemical abuser. Dependent upon prescribed drugs, particularly tranquilizers and sleepers. Does not see themself as a deviant, even though they are. Has unrealistic expectations of themself.
Totally dependent on spouse of family for direction and support, mild-mannered, blames their support system for their problems.
Bad attitude, know it all, gangster type. She would rather be a man’s crime partner or spoon partner than his mate.
After reading all of these I’m sure you believe that some of them don’t apply, or seem a little abstract, but to be honest most of these masks are used by drug abusers and alcoholics; however, every person can attach themselves to at least one (if-not more) of these masks. We may not want to admit the truth to ourselves, but there-in lies the problem. The people that constantly wear masks hide their true selves not-only to others but eventually to their own self. Hiding behind a mask (or masks) alters your perception of reality and distorts the way you see people and how you see yourself.
As I said before, I’d tell you which one of these masks upsets me the most and it would have to be a combination of the illiterate dummy, clinging vine, and Susie or Sam cream cheese. Why do I despise these masks so much? Because they’re masks I used to wear. Although masks are still a part of our everyday lives (we put them on for work, for family, for friends, for fancy restaurants, going out to the club, etc..) we can’t come to a discover who we truly are until we dismantle these facades, and view reality for what it is.
It’s a part of life to discover your masks, find your true self and eventually change your life to reflect who you really are. We all have a burning desire to be ‘free’, but often-times we’re our own prison. Life is more than our personal perceptions of it.